Instagram Model Exposes Anthony Edwards

and whether this girl was trying to get pregnant because she wanted a bag or not.

You have to be aware that that's something that's a possibility.

What's up you guys? I'm Rachel Namita and welcome to the Courtside Club where we give you a

courtside view of what's going on in the world of sports and entertainment. It is the week before

Christmas. This is actually our last episode until Christmas. So I hope that you guys enjoy

and you have a fantastic week with your family coming up and you just have a great time and

you're enjoying the holiday. But we have a lot to cover today so let's jump right into it.

This is something that I wasn't even planning on covering today but the story kind of broke

last night and it is a text exchange between Anthony Edwards and what seems to be a fling

or a side chick of his because from my understanding he was in a relationship for

quite a while and actually has a baby on the way with his main girlfriend.

So anyway his side chick posted this text exchange between her and Anthony Edwards

which where she basically shares that she is pregnant and she's saying that it's his baby and

the gist of it is his him saying to get an abortion. So I'll put the text messages on

screen here so you guys can read them and I'm just gonna give you an overview and give you

the gist of it. She starts off by showing the pregnancy test that shows that she's pregnant.

She says,

And I'm also gonna read this in like the exact grammar that he wrote these text messages because

it's pretty all over the place but that's how I'm gonna read it. I'm gonna really get into

character here. She said,

So now what? What a great response. He said,

Get a abortion lol. Which is wild by the way. I don't think I've ever seen anybody put an lol

after talking about abortion.

She said honestly I had an abortion with my son around two years ago and I regret it every day.

He said man you can't force a kid in the world. You don't know what it is yet. She said that's

not the point. I said I had an abortion two years ago and I regret it. He said yeah but I don't want

a kid. Which is interesting because I think he is he does have a kid on the way like I said with

his actual girlfriend. So there's exchanges between him and his ex-girlfriend. So there's exchanges

between him and his ex-girlfriend. So there's exchanges between him and his ex-girlfriend. So

there's exchanges between him and his ex-girlfriend. So there's exchanges between him and his ex-girlfriend.

back and forth he basically tells her that he will send her money to help her out and she said I

didn't ask for it but okay so she accepts the money he said I don't want kids let's handle this like

grown-ups she said I'm not trying to force you to be a dad to a baby you don't want I just don't

like abortions that doesn't make me wrong if you really don't want to do this then fine I won't

he said just take the pills so when I woke up this morning what was actually trending

on Twitter was just take the pills and send the video which is what we'll get to in a second

she said you don't care about no one but you he said you got the money what's the hole up

because now you finna make a problem she said finna make a problem exactly I don't give a

fuck I've been nice this whole time and I don't bother too much basically saying like she doesn't

bother him with it she's just trying to let him know he said okay just make sure I get the video

of the box with the right pills she said what other pills would they be he said just making

sure so then this is where this is where things like take a little bit of a turn she sends him

an AI generated photo of what their baby would look like so at first like when I started reading

this I was like oh this is actually really messed up because I do think it's wrong for any man to

try to pressure a woman to have an abortion and I don't think it's wrong for any man to try to

because I don't think a man can ever understand what that is like for a woman to make that

decision to have an abortion and she clearly said that she was traumatized by having one before

so in the beginning I was like this is actually like super messed up why is he you know kind of

being this cold about it or being this firm about it then she goes on to send this AI generated

photo and said look how cute though which is to me kind of weird because she went from saying

it's fine you don't have to be a daddy to this baby I'm still kind of kind of going to have the

baby and now trying to persuade him in a sense by using an AI generated photo not the way I would

go about it but I digress so then he says send a video send a video the video question mark where's

the video so he's just basically super adamant about getting this video of her having the pills

or taking the pills

I think my initial reaction to this is that it's super messed up for any man to be

pressuring a woman to have an abortion but at the same time if you're a woman and you don't

want to have an abortion and the the baby daddy to this baby that you're carrying says they don't

want to be involved you don't want to have an abortion then that's what you have to step up

and say I'm not having an abortion if you'd like to be in your child's life you can if not I'm

going to have this baby but I'm letting you know that I'm having this baby and she could have

easily done that but I'm not going to have this baby and I'm not going to have this baby

he in another slide and by the way she posted all of this on Instagram I don't know what provoked her

to post the text message threads I don't know how long ago these this text exchange happened

but she also posted the wire transfer of him sending her a hundred thousand dollars which

essentially I guess was his way of saying like listen I don't want this baby have an abortion

I don't want it here's a hundred thousand dollars please get out of my life and then proceeded to

also say that he's not having an abortion I don't want to have an abortion I don't want to have an

abortion I don't want it here's a hundred thousand dollars please get out of my life and then proceeded to

I do think it's a cautionary tale for men and women but especially men who are in the spotlight or

who do have millions and millions of dollars there's been so many times and there's rap songs

about it where they talk about girls wanting to have children with rich men professional athletes

rappers singers artists you name it

with money so that they can just kind of be locked in and be getting that child support whatever I

don't know her intentions but there may have been some of that there and maybe that's why he was so

firm on saying like I don't want anything to do with this here's your money I'm telling you this

now I don't want anything to do with this because maybe if he was wishy-washy he could have gotten

roped into that but it's a messy situation obviously with the way that Anthony Edwards

is playing on the court you would prefer to focus on the good that he's doing on the court and I

think all of this stuff with when we talk about Anthony Edwards talk about Zion anything that is

off the court is just a distraction but social media and the the fans are going to be way quicker

to pick up on these kind of drama stories than they are with you dropping 50 points in a game

so I think when you're

at that level you have to just be so extremely careful with what you're doing behind closed

doors who you're doing it with who you can actually trust the stakes are just higher for

everyone and whether this girl was was trying to get pregnant because she wanted a bag or not

you have to be aware that that's something that's a possibility and that can happen to you at any

time so I hope that this all gets resolved I don't wish for any woman

to

have an abortion because they felt pressure to do that because I do think that's such uh it's a

life-changing that's a life-changing decision that you have to make and a man will never be

able to understand that so I don't know what this woman did if she did follow through with it I hope

that she's doing well and has moved on and I hope Anthony Edwards just stays out of the mud

I don't know if that's the right phrasing but

just like

is more careful next time and more selective with what he does in the bedroom with who who he does

in the bedroom that's all I have to say about that I want to jump in here really quick because

right after I filmed today's episode Anthony Edwards actually came out with a statement kind

of addressing the text messages that were shared he said I made the comments in the heat of the

moment that are not me and are not aligned with what I believe and who I want to be as a man

all women should be supported and empowered to make their own decisions about their bodies and

what is best for them I am handling my personal matters privately and will not be commenting on

them any further at this time I'm not sure if he made this apology because he actually does feel

bad about what he said or he was just getting absolutely flamed online but I do appreciate

the fact that he came out with some statement and I think what he said here is absolutely correct

and also what I've been saying the entire time whether you want a child or not it is a woman's

decision whether they are going to have an abortion or not it is a woman's decision whether

they are going to have an abortion or not because it affects them more than anyone I'm glad that he

did come out with this statement and I do hope that himself and the woman who released the text

messages move forward from this in a healthy way and do better in the future next up a topic that

has been widely discussed in the NBA world is Draymond Green has been suspended indefinitely

and this came after he was ejected in the game where he had a very hard foul on Nurkic I'm sure

you guys have seen it it's been all over social media everybody in the media

has been talking about it everybody has their opinion on it but I wanted to give you guys mine

because I feel like mine is different than what a lot of people are saying I feel like the general

consensus about this situation and about Draymond Green we've been hearing a lot that I hope he gets

the help he needs I hope that he's okay he's obviously going through some stuff I hope he

does better and my first reaction first of all to the foul was yes he swung around and he was

like crazy it didn't seem like he was trying to knock him in the face how he did he's just that

type of player I don't know why all of a sudden we are shocked that Draymond is committing hard

fouls he's always done this for the entirety of his career we've all had someone on our basketball

team growing up AAU college basketball who has a short temper this is not new this is who Draymond

is yes does he pick maybe the wrong time to do this how does he pick the wrong time to do this

has he really hurt his team with um doing it in practice punching his own teammate doing it when

you know they're in the finals in the playoffs really you know getting um getting suspended

and messing up the chemistry of his team yes but that is who Draymond is so I don't know why all

of a sudden he needs help or he's going through something or his mental health like this is who

he is like we're being a little dramatic here the indefinite suspension

I get it I don't know how long it's going to be I think it's Adam Silver sending a message and

being like hey guys you have to calm down you can't be fouling he's trying to protect the players

the NBA has gotten softer like that we all know that for better for worse the league has gotten

so much softer if you look back and I have some clips here that I also wanted to show you guys

but if you go back 10 20 30 years

people were choking people in game and not getting ejected they were just getting a technical foul

and continuing on playing the league is a lot softer now so he wants to make a stance and say

like hey we can't be doing this whether you meant to clock him in the face or not you can't be doing

this and Draymond is a repeat offender so I want to go over some stats of Draymond's as well

he's had 171 technical fouls in his career

20 ejections and 2.5 million dollars in fines that he's had to pay from these fouls which is

pretty wild but like I said this isn't a one instance thing that all of a sudden he needs

to get but he's been doing this the entirety of his career probably in high school probably in

college probably in AU probably in youth basketball it seems to be his demeanor that's what makes

Draymond Draymond and if he's not doing it right he's not doing it right he's not doing it right

he's not doing it right he's not doing it right he's not doing it right he's not doing it right

fouling hard people love that about him they love his tenacity they love his defense they love his

his will and his grit and his competitive nature which a lot of guys right now in the NBA don't

have I don't know why we're freaking out about it so much yeah it was a hard foul suspend him

for a little while maybe talk to him and be like hey you gotta chill you gotta work on this hot

temper well like he needs help really I don't know like I remember the the nut kicking thing

for a while where he was just like constantly kicking guys in the nuts like that was a little

absurd but some of these where he's you know trying to rip the ball away and he just flails

and kind of smacks someone I don't know I feel like this is like kind of a normal thing Draymond's

on the biggest stage he's you know all he plays a lot of minutes the Warriors are a team that's

highlighted a lot so as of the time that I'm recording this Draymond Green

has now went to counseling and will be out for three weeks so maybe it's anger management I

don't know what else it could be maybe there is something going on in his personal life

I hope that it helps him but I don't think we need to exaggerate it so much and

I don't know to me it doesn't seem like he's like just such an issue of a person he doesn't

actually get it correct me if I'm wrong he doesn't get into much trouble off the court besides

I mean punching Jordan pool in the face was actually on the court but I think it's his style

you know his style of play like like you were saying if if this was the old days like it

wouldn't be that egregious if you were watching like hockey they have whole players whose whole

point of being on the ice is that they're enforcers and that they like help create

right a tough vibe for this team and you can't like if you foul one of the guys you know this

other guy's gonna foul you right like that's there there's room for that personality and

that style of play at least there has been maybe there's less room for it now right but the but the

sure but the reality is is is the rules have changed from when we all kind of became fans

of basketball and you're not helping your team suspended right and so if they say yeah you used

to be able to give a hard file and you weren't and and it was just a normal file now a hard file can

get you ejected and if you keep doing it you can the real chapter of the doctor there's not even a fucking rule 10 to КDI you can do that. And something could have taken you."

keep doing it you can give a hard file and you weren't and and it was just a normal file. Now a hard file can get you ejected. And if you keep doing it, you can get you ejected.

you can get suspended and that hurts the team right presumably right i get all of that i get

all of that i don't think he should be doing any of this but i also don't think we should be making

it so dramatic like he has a diagnosable mental problem like that's how making people seem

everybody's like oh i just hope he's okay that's like the help he needs like say that for someone

who actually does have issues like that to me like from the outside looking doesn't seem like

it unless there's something i'm just like i don't see that's like going on at practice or something

but it's all these talking media heads that are showing just so much concern like the guy's just

he's an enforcer like you said maybe in the wrong sport for the record also there are dirty plays

there are and there's certain things that you can do in basketball that will actually injure

somebody including like undercutting someone

stepping

on people's feet like that those can actually injure people some of the stuff that he's doing

to me a slap in the face a karate chop across the neck diving on the ball on top of somebody like

it never once has felt to me that he is actively trying to injure somebody

so that's where like i'm missing this there's an issue with him but let's watch some of these

clips from the 90s and the 80s because this will kind of take you back to how

basketball used to be i'm not saying it's right or wrong but in these days if you played like

draymond you were you know a bad boy now you have mental health issues

i'm a tumble back at the time and uh you know they they went with larry which i think was

ball trick it's charles barkley's imitation of rick mahorn the sixes were loose in practice

but come game time there were all the guys who were on the court who were not able to play because they

they were all business as my horns has a friendly chat with milwaukee's frank rinkowski

it was the bad boys of detroit who put an emphatic end to the lakers reign notching

back-to-back championships of their own but the road to think that being the number one seed makes

your opening series easy well the knicks don't think so and neither do the phoenix had a tone

early in this playoff series this is in the fourth quarter oakley with the elbow directed

at george mcleod and oakley is cited for unsportsmanlike conduct handed his second

technical foul of the game and that means automatic ejection

it's evident and i expect it to continue here tonight

let me show you what happened lionel hollins penetrating on atlanta tree

rollins delivers the elbow and hollins is furious he thinks the tree elbowed him deliberately

so he comes in behind to throw a left-handed punch

but he broke a knee

knuckle on his shooting hand nothing wrong with his legs though folks watch him clear out here

fortunately for hollins rollins didn't catch him but unfortunately for the sixers

he broke the hand there he is at this moment he will not be able to play in this series

against milwaukee and he might be lost for the entire playoffs because all these plays by the

way also players weren't ejected they would get a tech like could you imagine now if a

player came down made a dunk and then started punching the thing like that would be it you'd be

gone he wasn't even punching a person he's punching like the little the padding on the on

the hoop i think i've i think i've made my case and listen i'm not saying the nba is any better or

worse because it is a softer league but it's a softer league it definitely is and so like watching

these clips from the 80s and 90s and just seeing you know i feel like the basketball

on the court wasn't as good obviously as it is now but the physicality

and the competitive edge and the chippiness it did it did add to the game in a lot of ways and i

think it also the fans were really behind that because there were rivalries that were created

there were rivalries between teams between players and there was just a little bit

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another story that i briefly wanted to touch on and kind of give you the updates that we have

is pretty dark but it does touch our nba world and our nba community there was a

g league player who was arrested and is being charged with open murder and

kidnapping so the the player's name is chance kamansky and he played on the stockton kings

him and his girlfriend a 19 year old woman will face open murder charges in the death of a 23

year old woman who had gone missing in las vegas the police announced this just yesterday so on

sunday the vegas police said in a statement that the remains of marina rogers a medical assistant

from washington state who was last seen in the vegas area were found in a desert area in henderson

nevada so if you guys remember i actually remember seeing this story on twitter that there was a

girl who was missing and you know twitter and social media were doing their thing by circulating

photos of her saying that she was last seen on december 5th and she was reported missing on

december 7th now the stockton kings were playing against the g league ignite team which is in

vegas on december 5th so supposedly marina had plans to meet up with comanche's girlfriend that

was arrested on december 5th so comanche 27 was apprehended by fbi agents on friday in sacramento

county california and is being held without bail his girlfriend sakari harnden is 19 and she was

arrested on wednesday in las vegas on kidnapping charges and was detained on 500 000 bail per jail

records according to vegas police rogers who was the victim was out with friends on december 5th

and had pre a pre-arranged

meeting with harnden the girlfriend and comanche the g league player

that night so what's truly crazy about this and obviously the story is so sad and devastating we

don't have um all the answers yet but it seems to be clear that comanche and his girlfriend are the

only two suspects as of right now the fbi was involved they are both arrested they are not

getting out of jail he's being held without bail girlfriend is being held on a 500 000 bail but the

craziest part to me about this is if this story does happen to be true um and they are charged

with this comanche played on december 5th in vegas and then he had another game on december 7th

the murder as of right now seemed to have taken place either the night of december 5th or on

december 6th so the fact that he could have possibly played in a game before and then directly

after to me is insane

all of this is very sad and r.i.p obviously to marina 23 years old a life cut far too soon my

thoughts and prayers go out to her family and i do hope that justice is served very swiftly

it does not look good for this nba player the police released a statement and the headline says

male and female execute murder plan and it says here that detectives have determined that

harnden and comanche are responsible for the murder of rogers they charge both individuals

and will be amended to open murder through coordination with the clark county district

attorney's office so both the girlfriend and comanche are going to be in court tomorrow when

this video goes out they'll be going to court on tuesday so this video will probably be going out

the same day i'll keep you guys updated if anything else breaks but he was thankfully

released from the stock stockton kings immediately when he was arrested and it and the nba has yet

to comment on this but it seems like the fbi and the police are handling it swiftly and promptly

and i hope that justice is served again these are all allegations at this point but i will keep you

guys posted as more information comes out should we play start bench cut christmas edition i think

so all right here we go christmas edition start bench cut do it it's the most wonderful time of the

that's right and everyone knows the most wonderful movies are christmas movies yes so start bench cut

home alone elf and the grinch it's absolutely a no-brainer who i'm starting elf hands down

my favorite christmas movie such a legendary christmas movie and i also think it's been like

almost 20 years since it was released which is insanity because i feel like it was only five

years ago that i saw it for the first time elf number one best christmas movie of all time

starting now this is going to be extremely controversial but i'm benching the grinch

because i also love the grinch and i think it's such an iconic story iconic christmas movie

and i'm cutting home alone now i have not seen home alone in ages so maybe it's my bias showing

maybe i need to go back and re-watch home alone but

it didn't stick with me how elf and the grinch have stuck with me and i also feel like home alone

could be categorized as like a maybe a christmas maybe a not christmas movie elf and the grinch

have like only christmas storylines so those are my top two and i'm so sorry to macaulay caulkin

but you're out of there is that controversial you should end that you should you should uh

ask ask the viewers what they think so they can

that's true but also it's controversial normally it's star bench cut there's no way to like get it

wrong except this time you just got it wrong you can't you can't home alone is literally one of

like the classic all-time movies like the answer is you start home alone and that's anything after

that whatever and then you can you can bench elf because people love help the grinch the grinch is

such a forget it like nobody talks about that movie or cares about that movie like compared

to home alone well

home alone yeah i am in real life actually yeah she's she's a grinch person bonus bonus question

for christmas movies is die hard a christmas movie i don't know i've never seen it oh you

haven't all right hold on forget it we've gone over this in previous episodes i am selective

about what movies i watch and i i guess i haven't seen the classics well die hard is a great movie

but it's like it's a classic debate whether or not it's a christmas movie got it because it takes

place on christmas at a christmas party have you seen any of the harry potters you're joking right

oh yeah i love harry potter yeah are they christmas movies i think so no the one there's

one that's on christmas well that's i guess that's what i'm saying though it's like elf and the grinch

are christmas only movies like you're not watching them in the summertime

home alone you can watch at any time like there's more of a story than than it being about christmas

it's true but am i wrong in saying that and it's christmas music and it's like christmas

spirit okay well maybe i just maybe i just don't remember you guys let me know you guys let me know

in the comments if i'm completely out of pocket for cutting home alone star bench cut christmas

foods sugar cookies eggnog candy canes

okay so 10 for 10 absolutely nostalgia moment for me starting sugar cookies and specifically

the cut out sugar cookies that are like frosted because that's just a core memory that i have

from growing up is making those every single year with my mom and like making the different color

frostings and decorating them how i want to and like having little artworks that was what i loved

loved loved to do so i'm starting

the cut out sugar cookies ah the eggnog and the candy canes is actually so difficult for me because

eggnog is just such a christmas thing and i feel like people love it or hate it i actually growing

up loved it and now that i'm vegan i've actually tried vegan eggnog and i have some and so

you know what i might i might bench eggnog even though it's like so controversial some people

think it's disgusting it's just such a you wouldn't drink it at any other time of the year

so i'm gonna bench eggnog i'm gonna cut the candy canes even though they are delicious and you can

just kind of throw them in your purse and have them anytime i feel like you could also just have

a mint so we're gonna cut those although did you guys used to like lick them and make them into

like sharp points and try to kill each other like i think i think that was the the best part of

christmas is stabbing at your cousins with your candy cane yeah

start bench cut christmas songs all i want for christmas is you mariah carey

rocking around the christmas tree by brenda lee or last christmas by wham interesting three choices

so did you guys know that rocking around the christmas tree is sung by a 13 year old for

my entire existence i always thought that that was

right it sounds like an old lady she was 13 when she recorded that song so for that alone i'm gonna

bench rocking around the christmas tree because that's a feat in itself and imagine like i was

just talking about this yesterday all you need to do is just make a really damn good christmas song

and that's your like recipe for success you will be rich until the end of time because people play

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she is so ready for this time of the year so i think even as much as i love um last christmas and i feel like that's almost like the least christmasy song of all and the least annoying of all i'm gonna cut it and i'm gonna start all i want for christmas is you by mariah carry because she is christmas she's our christmas she's our christmas queen now it's time to

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All right, you guys, for today's Spill the Tea segment,

we have a Taylor Swift controversy.

So Taylor Swift just experienced her welcome to the NFL moment.

She was booed at Gillette Stadium.

The Chiefs were playing the Patriots.

They put Taylor up on the big screen, up on the Jumbotron,

whatever you want to call it, at a stadium,

and the fans were booing her.

So we have a little clip of it here.

Taylor Swift sells out stadiums

and has even created an earthquake at one of the stadiums

because her fans were dancing and cheering so hard.

So I feel like this is just such a change

for her to actually be booed at an NFL stadium.

I personally think that this is not Taylor's fault.

I think it is the NFL social media media's fault

because ever since she started going to these games,

all the media has been talking about is her at the game.

And a lot of, I feel like, diehard NFL fans

who really don't care so much about Taylor

are just like, hey, we want to watch football.

You guys are bothering me because you are showing her so much,

posting her so much.

Anytime anybody does anything,

you pan over and show Taylor's reaction

to what's going on on the football field.

So Taylor Swift also recently won Times Person of the Year.

I'm sure that you guys all saw that.

I think it's so well-deserved because this has been her year.

She's had a killer, killer year.

She said when she goes to games

to support her boyfriend, Travis Kelsey,

she is only going to games to support Travis.

And she said, I have no awareness

of if I'm being shown to be a player.

If I'm being shown too much

or pissing off a few dads, brads, and chads,

which I thought was really funny.

And it was also something that was trending online

was dads, brads, and chads.

So recently at the same game that she was getting booed,

there was a little photo that Brittany Mahomes

actually posted of these cookies that they made,

which were perfectly decorated

with the hands, brads, and chads,

and with the whatever hand signal,

which I thought was pretty funny.

Because it is true.

She knows that she's on camera.

And I think sometimes when she's there,

she's obviously making sure that she's wearing a great outfit

and standing in front.

And she knows that she's there.

But I do think that she is there to support her boyfriend.

She cannot control how many people.

She cannot control how many people.

She cannot control how many people.

are posting about her

or if she's going to be on the jumbotron or not.

I don't even know if she knows when she's being filmed.

She handled it like a champ.

So we talked about the boos being Taylor's

welcome to the NFL moment.

Because if you're a sports fan,

you know how sports fans are.

They ride or die for their team.

It is not the heiress tour.

It is not girls going there,

trading friendship bracelets,

and becoming best friends.

No.

It is mostly men.

And they are amped up.

And they are drinking beer.

And they are cheering for their team.

And they don't care about literally anything else.

It is like a primitive social event for mostly men.

That's what it is.

Now, Taylor Swift,

when she first started going to the games,

to me, it was funny when they were panning to her

because it seemed like she didn't really realize

what was going on on the field.

And she's admitted it herself.

She hasn't really watched much sports growing up.

So this is kind of her first introduction to football.

And so a lot of times,

she would just be cheering.

And hugging people when there was a touchdown.

She would be gasping and just so scared

any time Travis got tackled or fell down,

which is such a normal football thing.

But it was actually kind of cute

because it was like she was learning along the way.

This clip that we have right here,

to me, is Taylor's true

welcome to NFL fandom moment.

So let's check it out.

Intended receiver went down,

but no penalty flags call.

It was...

Kelsey, who was the intended receiver.

So this was, to me,

this was her true reaction

to where she actually looked like a dad Brad or Chad here.

So she saw the pass interference.

She got really upset about it.

Obviously, Travis fell.

The pass was incomplete.

And I feel like a lot of people online

actually respected her more after seeing that clip

because you could just tell how into the game that she was.

So...

Somebody else who had a welcome to the NFL moment

was a Swifty who decided to go to Gillette Stadium

and obviously, which is the home stadium of the Patriots

and wore a Taylor Swift Aris Tour jean jacket

and a Chiefs hat.

And I think like a Chiefs something.

Anyway, she was decked out in Chiefs and Taylor Swift gear.

She went to the game wearing this

thinking that it was going to be fine.

I want to read the tweet that she wrote.

She said,

And she, by the way, added Gillette Stadium.

Gillette Stadium has always been my home base

and my favorite stadium as a born and raised Massachusetts girl.

But tonight at the at Patriots game,

I was harassed and audibly booed

for being a fan of the opposing team

and wearing a jacket with my lifelong idol on it.

The experience was extremely stressful

and continued to escalate as the night went on.

I am very...

I was a very peaceful fan,

cheering for my team in the seat and clothes that I paid for.

I deserve to be there

and I deserve to feel safe doing so.

I had men directly behind me in my ear

as well as many rows behind me in the section

yelling that I was stupid for being a fan of Taylor

and many other nasty things that I won't even put on here

that I won't even put on here for me

and honestly Taylor's sake.

It was horrendous.

This went until I decided to leave my section

because of the extent of the literal bullying.

As I was leaving the at Patriots,

Patriots fans around me booed me as I left.

No, I was not mistaking this for a play.

Nobody was on the field at the time.

All eyes were on me

and the discomfort and anxiety I felt

should never have happened.

I moved my seat for the end of the fourth quarter

because of the amount of empty seats at that point.

I was able to enjoy the win of the Chiefs

probably since most Patriot fans were gone.

I am a Patriots fan as well.

I grew up here,

but tonight was definitely an eye-opener

and I can't...

I keep looking back on it

and realizing just how wrong I was

thanks to the men who made me completely uncomfortable.

You suck.

I just want to put out a bit of a warning

to any Swifties who are going to NFL games

to simply watch Taylor

or pseudo-support Taylor

and support the Chiefs.

Do not go to opposing stadiums

thinking that you can wear the opposing team's gear

and not get heckled.

Do not do it.

Like I said before,

this is not the era.

There are no friendship bracelets

at an NFL football game.

You are not going to hold hands

and sing and hug.

You are not in a suite like Taylor.

You are in the general public

and sports fans are nuts.

They are absolutely nuts.

They are drunk

and they care about their team

and that's really all they care about.

And a lot of these people who are in the stands

have been fans for many, many, many of years.

If you actually think that I could wear

decked out Ohio State gear

and walk in...

to a home University of Michigan football game

and not get heckled and bullied

to the point of maybe getting beat up,

you'd be crazy.

I would never do that.

You don't do that.

So please, Swifties,

do not think that going to the games

is just going to be this fun, peaceful moment

and you deserve to be there

because you bought the tickets

and you get to wear whatever clothes you want.

No, no, no.

This is like...

There's not many rules.

I'm not applauding bullying,

but I think if you walk into an opposing stadium,

in the opposing team's gear

and you expect not to get bullied

or heckled or yelled at,

you're just not...

You're ignorant

to what sports actually are.

So beware.

Don't do that.

Maybe go neutral.

Maybe go neutral colors.

Maybe you can support Taylor in other ways

that isn't showing up to a vicinity where she is

just so you can maybe see her on the Jumbotron.

If you don't care about football,

don't go.

Watch from home.

This is meant to help, Swifties.

That phenomenon of going to a sporting event

wearing the opposing team's stuff,

it's also pretty common, right?

And it's mostly all...

Obviously, there's the occasional fight

or something that breaks out,

but for the most part, the vast majority,

it's all in good fun.

You're going to get heckled by the crowd

and you're supposed to heckle them back a little bit.

That's part of it.

People will do that.

Well, yeah.

Maybe you get into it

and that's part of the fun.

That's the culture.

She just doesn't get it.

It's kind of fine.

She doesn't get it,

but you should see some of these replies.

It's all the Swifties being like,

oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that happened to you.

That should have never happened.

That should be a safe space.

No, it's actually not a safe space.

No, it's not.

It's sports.

Yeah, but also what safe means.

Because I actually agree.

If she had been physically attacked,

it'd be like, oh, that's terrible.

That shouldn't have happened.

Oh, yeah.

A thousand percent.

She shouldn't feel unsafe.

That's what I'm saying,

is that that kind of heckling

is actually all in good fun,

I would argue.

Right.

Maybe if you're not used to it,

it might scare you a little bit,

but that's like, oh, yeah,

you're wearing the other team's stuff.

People are going to yell at you,

and then you can yell back

or you can make fun of them.

That's just part of how it works.

Right.

Also, just to go back to the first guy booing,

to me, nobody has my opinion on this,

but it's like hard to imagine

being more of a loser

than that guy

who's looking at her on the Jumbotron

going, boo.

And filming it, by the way.

And filming it.

Like, this is your personality,

is like you're at a football game

and you see Taylor Swift on the Jumbotron

and you start booing.

Like, it actually makes you upset.

If it's like sarcastic and it's funny

and we're all kind of like doing some kind of,

like, gag, okay, fine, I guess.

But, like, it's just,

this is how you define yourself,

by being mad about what they put on the Jumbotron,

you know?

No.

Well, for sure.

I think it was to be expected at some point

because it's not Taylor's fault.

Like, she actually is an unproblematic person.

Like, there's nothing really to hate

about Taylor Swift.

You,

should be hating if you feel like

it's messing up the game

because, like, you're not,

instead of seeing a replay, you're seeing her.

Like, that's what I could see maybe get mad.

But,

I don't know.

This kind of stuff happens all the time.

She's the biggest celebrity in the world.

So,

the people that are posting her,

how much they're showing her on television,

they wouldn't continue to do that

if it was hurting ratings.

Like, the Chiefs games,

more people are watching these games because of her.

So, that's what she said.

Like, she's,

seems super unbothered by it

and the dads,

brads and chads

can get as mad as they want.

She's just going to be there for Travis.

And I think it's cute.

And I'm glad that she's,

like, learning,

learning sports culture a little bit more.

She seems to be super into it.

Selena Gomez was catching heat last week

for arguing with fans

about her new relationship

with Benny Blanco.

So, Benny Blanco is also in the music industry.

I believe he's, like,

a producer,

writer.

He's worked with a lot of big artists

and he's been around for a long time.

But she actually kind of went out of her way.

So, there was speculation

that these two were dating.

She went out of her way

to kind of argue with fans

and prove to them, in a sense,

that her relationship was really good

and she was replying back.

There was,

it was actually an absurd amount of comments

that she was replying to,

kind of saying that this is the happiest

that she's ever been.

They've been dating for six months.

If you don't support

her relationship

with Benny Blanco,

then she doesn't really care.

Then you're not a real fan of her.

And she was just kind of going on and on.

And she was catching some heat,

mostly for the fact that

she was coming so hard at her fans

and fans kind of didn't understand

why she was so aggressively

going in the comments

and just talking about her relationship

that no one really provoked her about.

After that,

she said that she would be taking a break

from social media.

Until she had work to do.

As you guys probably know,

Selena Gomez takes a lot of breaks

off of social media,

but she is the most followed person on Instagram.

So in a way,

I do sympathize with her

because I can imagine

it would,

you would feel a lot of pressure

and it's just a,

it's just social media

is just a toxic and tough place to be in.

And sometimes it does feel like

you can't do anything right.

So she announced that she was taking a break

until she had work.

But she came back from that break

and it wasn't work that she posted.

It was actually a photo carousel

of Taylor Swift's birthday,

stuff that she was doing with Rare Beauty

and some photos kind of hard launching

her relationship with Benny Blanco.

So obviously with those photos,

it got a ton of buzz.

A lot of people were chatting

even more about their relationship.

And it got me back to thinking

how much of your relationship

should you share on social media?

When should you share your relationship

on social media?

And, or should you share your relationship

at all on social media?

Because I feel like this is one of those things

we are living in 2023,

almost 2024 now.

Social media is so ingrained

in all of our lives.

And it unfortunately or fortunately

is one of the things

that I feel like most people

have to discuss

with their significant other.

Social media affects,

relationships more than it ever has.

If you think back to the days

when your parents were dating,

it was, or your parents were,

you know, dating, getting married,

you basically had a pool of people

was who lived around you,

like in your vicinity.

And you kind of just chose somebody,

got married to them,

and that was it.

You didn't really have cell phones.

You were calling on the landlines.

You didn't have dating apps.

You, you were kind of just

staying in your hometown.

And that was the amount of options

that you have.

Social media has opened up the doors

to people thinking

that they have many more options

than they might.

There's a perceived like endless amount

of options that you have now

because you're seeing people's lives

from all across the world.

And with that,

there's so many problems

that just come in relationships,

like who people are following

on social media,

what photos they're liking

on social media,

what somebody is DMing somebody else

on social media.

Are you posting me?

Are you not posting me?

Are you hiding me?

Are you posting too much?

Are you only posting

your significant other

after you guys get in a fight?

Like, oh, you shouldn't have posted

that photo of me

because I didn't look good.

Why did you do that?

Like, there's just so many problems

that have come up

because we now live

in a social media world.

And so when I was thinking about this

with Selena Gomez,

firstly, it seems like she is,

first of all,

I have met Selena Gomez before.

And she was the sweetest,

loveliest person.

She was very kind,

very welcoming.

And that's all I know of her.

But she does seem to be sensitive

in a sense,

which can be good or bad.

But I feel like in a social media age,

it is tough if you are sensitive.

I feel like you do have to have thick skin,

especially if you have a lot of followers.

So to me,

I was like a little bit surprised

of her posting her significant other

because once you post

your significant other,

especially if you have a lot of followers,

you're just opening the door.

For everybody else to be involved.

And that's why

I am somebody who has posted

my boyfriend, Dre.

I'm sure you guys have seen it,

but I am not posting him all the time.

And for me,

I am really selective

about how often I post Dre

because to me,

it goes one of two ways.

One, I feel like once I do that,

I'm opening the door up

to all of my fans,

all these people that I don't know,

getting involved in something

that to me is so sacred to me

and something that is a part

of my everyday life.

My social media followers,

as much as I love the support

and everything that you guys give me,

you are not in my day-to-day life.

And at the end of the day,

I don't know what half of you look like.

I don't know you personally.

And so, yes,

I love the support that you're giving,

but you're not here with me every day

going through what I'm going through

and my struggles,

but my significant other,

my best friends,

my family,

if I open up the door

to let everybody else in the world in

on things that are so sacred to me,

there is a risk there.

And so a lot of the times

if I do post with Dre

or if I post with my friends or my family,

I don't really read comments

because to me,

it's fine if you guys say hurtful

or negative things about me.

Like it really doesn't bother me.

I've been online for over a decade.

It is what it is,

but it does hurt my feelings

and I don't want to open up anybody else

to being susceptible to negativity.

And that's what you run the risk of doing.

So I think in a sense of like Taylor Swift,

firstly,

hasn't shared anything with Travis

on social media yet,

but her relationship is very public.

Even with her,

it's helped her in a sense

because it seems like generally speaking,

the world loves her and Travis together, right?

Now Selena Gomez is on the opposite end of the spectrum

where everybody is,

is digging up all of this,

all of these things about Benny Blanco

and saying that he's like not a great person

and he supposedly was talking bad about her

before they got together.

And so there's already this negativity

that has been brought in

just because it's a public relationship.

I also found a study recently

that went into,

that basically asked couples

who post their significant other

and their relationship on social media,

how happy they actually are.

And the findings were pretty interesting.

So the title of this article,

couples who post excessively

about their relationships on social media

aren't that happy.

A survey of 2000 British people ages 18 to 50

found a dramatic difference in relationship happiness

between people who post a lot of couples content

and those who never share any.

Of those who share excessively

three or more times a week,

which actually is so much,

only 10% reported being very happy

in their relationships.

and 42% said they are very unhappy as opposed to those who never share couples content of which

46% said that they are very happy and 13% said they are very unhappy. So it's basically like

complete opposites, complete opposite. Couples who never share are 46% very happy. Couples

who share excessively are 42% unhappy. So it's, it's actually the reverse. And I'm sure that you

guys have friends who, you know, like fight all the time, but then they're constantly like posting

each other on social media with these really long, crazy captions on how it's the love of their life

and their soulmate. And they've been through so many ups and downs. And it's just kind of

this weird juxtaposition of like, I see what you guys have going on, but to the rest of the world,

it's, it's almost like you're making up for the lack that you have in your real life. And you're

trying to push this narrative.

Of look how happy I am. Look how happy we are. And I think that's also something like coming

back to myself as well. I actually don't mind pushing out a persona on, and when I talk about

all these things, I'm specifically talking about Instagram for a lot, pushing out a persona on

Instagram. That's a little bit of a heightened reality for me. So it's maybe a little bit more

positive than my actual life is. I don't share the moments when I'm crying or when I'm sick or

when I'm upset, I don't share all of that.

You guys get a little bit more, you guys learn a little bit more about me here on this channel,

or maybe on Tik TOK, but on Instagram, I don't mind pushing that stuff about myself,

but I, I would absolutely mind pushing stuff about that, about my relationship, like having

struggles in my relationship. And then the very next day posting some beautiful heartfelt thing

about like Dre and I, about how we're perfect and making other people feel bad about maybe

their relationship.

Which is why also, I think I talk about so much on this, on this channel and just in regular life,

please stop idolizing celebrity couples or couples that you don't know, or honestly celebrities in

general, stop idolizing what you see on social media because so often in this study proves it

of just this small sample size. This study proves that you're not seeing their reality.

42% of these people who post excessively,

about how much they love their significant other and about their relationship are unhappy that's

literally half the post that you're seeing that you think oh this is perfect i want a relationship

like this why is it mine like this you have to stop doing that and i hope that you guys even do

that with me i hope that you guys come to my channel watch my videos or go to my instagram

and kind of like my pictures watch my videos and then you literally get off social media go home

and go hang out with the real people that are in your lives your boyfriends girlfriends husbands

wives family friends and and then i'm i'm not a part of that like you don't take what you see

that i post and hope and wish that you had that because i guarantee you that there's stuff going

on in my life that you wouldn't want to have and there's stuff going on and and yours that i

wouldn't want to have social media is not real and so i don't know the exact formula on how much

or how little you should post your relationship but i think i do agree with this article in a sense

of like some things should be private and we also talked about mental health a little bit earlier in

the episode to protect my mental health i don't share so much of my loved ones i pick and choose

the times that it makes sense and that it feels authentic and that i feel good about it and i feel

like i'm protecting my relationships

and then the rest of the time i don't i kind of keep my social media for what it needs to be

and i can live my private life and i can keep my mental health and i can be happy at home

and i can share with you guys like what i'm doing for work and the fun

things that i'm doing and every once in a while you'll see dre or my friends or my family

and that's how i feel about that that was a really long rant

but i think that's that was that was good

i think you hit it yeah that was good honestly thanks that was solid and social media is fun

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